I'm optimistic that one day I'll find the man of my dreams. I'm not a picky person but I do have some standards and some criteria of the type of man I want and the qualities he should have:
1. Honest. No lies. I'm a big girl. I can handle the truth.
2. Non-Smoker. That is toxic and I refuse to be subjected to it in my home. This also extends to alcohol and drugs.
3. Ambitious. I do not want a bum. You have to at least have a job, even if it's not cushy and is only paying you minimum wage. Most importantly, if this is just a job to pay bills, there must be the desire to move on to bigger and better things.
4. Committed. I don't want a man who is going to be hopping, skipping and jumping around our relationship.
5. Faithful. This goes hand in hand with #4. No cheating. If I'm not giving you all you need, let me know so I can work on it if possible. If I can't, I'll walk away from the relationship. No point in us being together if I'm not making you happy and I'm feeling like shit for not making you happy. Rest assured, I'll be faithful to you. No creeping, no down-low relationships.
6. Supportive. Encourage me to always be the best I can be. If I decide to go back to school, don't be whining that I'm not spending enough time with you and all I do is study study study. I'll give you time for sure, but a real man will understand that what I'm doing is important also and that his support is critical too. And remember, that anything I do, I do it for the betterment of the relationship.
7. Selfless aka not selfish. No man who thinks only about himself will work for me. The world is not revolving around him alone if he's in a relationship with me. I must feel that I can count on him, that if he has 1 bulla, he'll give me 1/4 or if he has juice and water, he'll give me the juice!! :-) Just kidding about the juice, but I'm sure you get the picture.
8. Loving. I want a man to love me with all he has. I understand that I may not find someone to love me exactly the way I may want to be loved. But if a man loves me with everything he has, then that's good enough for me. It's important too to make me feel special at times. I like that. A little romance, an affectionate slap on the ass, a chocolate under my pillow will do the trick. It doesn't have to be some big extravagant gift.
9. Appreciative. He must appreciate me.
10. Respect. Most important. And it will be mutual.
Is he out there? I hope I'll find him ... someday.
1 comment:
Wow, interesting list. I think all women want men with these qualities, but to be honest, finding a man like that, especially in Jamaica, where most male influence come from dancehall music, that degrades women, is like searching for a needle in a haystack. Good luck though.
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